Finding the Right Words for our Grieving Ones

Losing someone in death is a painful blow to anyone.   I still think about my late father from time to time every day.  But there is comfort out there for those who lost a loved one to mankind’s greatest enemy, death.  I came across an interesting article in the Sun-Times about finding the right words to console our grieving ones.  Here are some interesting points from that article that stood out to me.

Don’t say to people, “There are no words”

It’s understandable to be at a loss of words when trying to comfort a grieving one.  But the article brings up that you shouldn’t say or write, “There are no words.”  Strive to literally find the right words to say or write to that person.  Find inspiration from others in sharing encouraging words.  If you’re not much of a wordsmith, simply letting people know you are thinking of them is sufficed.

Being a good listener is everything

Sometimes it means a lot to someone to just be a good listener.  There’s no need to talk more than the bereaved person.  When people are grieving, they need someone who is empathetic and there for them.  Being a good listening ear to someone will make them want to confide more in you.

Avoid these following expressions

The article also shared some good points about certain expressions to avoid when comforting someone:

• It was God’s will.
• But he lived a long life!
• She’s in a better place.

Some of us may not use these expressions.  However most people do and this is why these common expressions need to be put away.

Finding the right words to comfort our grieving friends isn’t always easy.  But if we do our best in becoming attentive and sensitive in our use of words, we will prove to be a good source of comfort for them.  Be sure to check out the article, “The Art of Consolation” from the Chicago Tribune website at www.chicagotribune.com.  As always, feel free to leave a comment about this article.   

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